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  Remembering Stealth453

  by Bumble Bee in

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  i'm not sure if there is anyone here anymore that remembers stealth, but if there is i just wanted to pass on the news that he passed away from a heart attack almost 2 years ago now.. i just found out myself today.

  he had moved overseas and we lost contact.

  he was in an area that he didn't always have reliable internet connections, so it wasn't uncommon for me to not hear from him for long stretches.

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  talesin even in this technological age it can still be difficult keeping contact with friends when they are so far away. I hope everything is ok too.

  ((((((Meaghan)))))) here you are!! I've missed you!

  Snowbird and Phaedra, thank you for your kind words and for remembering him. We are never really gone if our friends remember us.

  Bumping this for those that aren't around on the weekends. I know it's been a long time since he has been on here, but I see there are still some "old timers" around.

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  Remembering Stealth453

  by Bumble Bee in

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  i'm not sure if there is anyone here anymore that remembers stealth, but if there is i just wanted to pass on the news that he passed away from a heart attack almost 2 years ago now.. i just found out myself today.

  he had moved overseas and we lost contact.

  he was in an area that he didn't always have reliable internet connections, so it wasn't uncommon for me to not hear from him for long stretches.

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  Thank you talesin, I wasn't sure who was left here that would remember him. The country he was in had some deastating hurricanes, and I had no way to contact him.

  nonjwspouse, sorry I edited his name, he was always just Stealth to me on here.
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  Remembering Stealth453

  by Bumble Bee in

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  i'm not sure if there is anyone here anymore that remembers stealth, but if there is i just wanted to pass on the news that he passed away from a heart attack almost 2 years ago now.. i just found out myself today.

  he had moved overseas and we lost contact.

  he was in an area that he didn't always have reliable internet connections, so it wasn't uncommon for me to not hear from him for long stretches.

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  Bumble Bee

  Hello everyone,

  I'm not sure if there is anyone here anymore that remembers Stealth, but if there is I just wanted to pass on the news that he passed away from a heart attack almost 2 years ago now.

  I just found out myself today. He had moved overseas and we lost contact. He was in an area that he didn't always have reliable internet connections, so it wasn't uncommon for me to not hear from him for long stretches. Last I heard from him was July 2012. He told me he had had some rough times and had suffered a heart attack the year before. I was never able to connect with him again after some brief messages back and forth. He died in August 2012.

  He was a good friend, and helped me through a very difficult time in my life. I missed him when he moved, but always held out the hope that I would see him again.

  He will always have a place in my heart, and those that are here that remember him, please give him a bit of yours.

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  Is there a reason to remain a JW other than for family?

  by cedars in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  this strikes me as an important question.

  in my short time on this forum it strikes me that many contributors are quite open about keeping a foot in both camps.

  some are apparently even elders, serving in positions of authority within their respective congregations.

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  I gave the pretence of still being "in" while my father was alive. The last two years of his life were very fragile, I had already faded, but telling him I no longer wanted to be a JW would have put too much stress on his fragile health. I was the youngest of his first marriage and the only one that stayed a JW after the age of 16.

  Once he was gone, I stayed "in" on the pretence with my step mother till she got back on her feet. I attended a few meetings with her (we were in different congs) so she didn't have to be alone and for support.

  I then made the decision to tell her that I no longer wanted to be a JW. It was not a pretty scene!! Any JW family I had other than her and my half sister, I had no dealings with anyways, so it was no big loss to lose them. I did lose my step mom and half sister for a time, but they came around and said they wanted a relationship with me regardless of my beliefs.

  I could no longer live a lie and the hiding and pretending was just too much. I made the decision and all the fallout and consequences and loss that I knew would happen and it was the best thing I ever did.

  Everyone is different. I can say that now I can look at myself in the mirror and know that I stood up for myself and my beliefs and my health (mentally physically and emotionally) and be proud of my decision.

  Life is too short to live a lie and pretned, IMHO.
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  How the Internet saved my life

  by AK - Jeff in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  just a synopsis of this aspect of my story.

  i hope others will join in and tell us how this modern marvel of communication affected your exit [or your investigation, or perhaps entrenching] from the organization.. we all have doubts at times.

  mine were scattered over almost 5 decades, from the age of four when my mother accepted the religion.

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  Thanks for sharing that Jeff.

  I was at a low point in my life. I had had the internet for some time, dial up like you at first lol. I had resisted doing any searches on JW's for several years. One day I couldn't take it anymore. I like to think that day was the one and only time I ever had a prayer answered. I had faded, had tried several different churches, was torn about where to go and what to do about the religion. My husband at the time had faded as well, but that was more because he didn't want to go to the meetings alone, but would never talk to me about his feelings or how he was feeling about not going other than to say he felt guilty. I had his guilt heaped upon me. I had my parent's disappointment heaped upon me as well. I was distraught and truly at the bottom. I sat infront of the computer and "prayed" for advice and guidance on where I was supposed to be, if I was supposed to go back to the KH. I googled JW's and a whole world of people that felt the same way I did opened up to me. For many people, finally having proof that the JW's are wrong and liars is devastating. For me, it was a huge relief.

  I lost alot leaving, my marriage, some family, all my friends, but what I have gained far outweighs what I lost.
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  It's been a year now... (Yay me.)

  by VampireDCLXV in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i guess that my one year anniversary here has come.. i've made lots of friends... and perhaps a few enemies.. i've made people laugh... i've pissed people off.... i've made people think... i've made people cringe.... i've moved ahead in some areas of life... still stuck in some others.... i've had a lot of fun... i've had some tense moments and tears.... i've been able to make sense to people... spoke utter nonsense at other times.... to my 'fans' here: thanks for the support and having my back... .

  to people who hate my guts: go ahead... take your best shot... .

  either way, i win.

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  Happy Anniversary!!
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  It's been a year now... (Yay me.)

  by VampireDCLXV in

  1. jw
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  i guess that my one year anniversary here has come.. i've made lots of friends... and perhaps a few enemies.. i've made people laugh... i've pissed people off.... i've made people think... i've made people cringe.... i've moved ahead in some areas of life... still stuck in some others.... i've had a lot of fun... i've had some tense moments and tears.... i've been able to make sense to people... spoke utter nonsense at other times.... to my 'fans' here: thanks for the support and having my back... .

  to people who hate my guts: go ahead... take your best shot... .

  either way, i win.

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  Happy Anniversary!!
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  I’ve come so far but I can’t move on - WHY NOT??

  by GoingGoingGone in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  hi everyone, i havent been here for a while but i do pop in and read whenever i can.

  the economic downturn has left my jw husband with much less work which means hes home a lot, which means little jwn-time for me :( so many new ones here!

  yay!

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  Hi GGG, I don't come here very often anymore either, but logged on today and saw your post.

  You have made a start, you know what you want. Now all you have to do is figure out how to get it. I would start with one thing first and go from there. By the sounds of it you aren't well enough to get a job right now? If that's the case, start with the friendship aspect first. Do you have any hobbies or interests? If so, go to meetup.com and see what groups there are out there that you can join. It will get you out of the house and socializing with other people. The friendships will develop from there.

  There is nothing wrong with doing things on your own without your husband, but you might have to make an extra effort to schedule "us" time with him so you stay connected. Lots of people have relationships with different hobbies and interest or clubs that they belong to.

  I'm happy to hear that you are cancer free!!
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  A few old JW books free to a good Apostate home

  by Bumble Bee in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have a few old books of my fathers that i'd like to give away to a good apostate home, free if anyone wants them.. i have "the kingdom is at hand" i don't see a date on it anywhere so i don't know how old it is exactly.. i also have "the new world" copyright 1942. and i have "jehovah's witnesses, the new world society" second printing edition june 1955, written by marley cole, published by vantage press, inc of ny, library of congress card 54-12633. .

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  I have a few old books of my fathers that I'd like to give away to a good Apostate home, free if anyone wants them.

  I have "The Kingdom is at Hand" I don't see a date on it anywhere so I don't know how old it is exactly.

  I also have "The New World" copyright 1942

  and I have "Jehovah's Witnesses, The New World Society" second printing edition June 1955, written by Marley Cole, published by Vantage press, Inc of NY, Library of Congress card 54-12633
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  Fornicate so he can remarry??

  by juci32 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  hey guys!

  i've been here a while, posted a few topics about me and my witness hubs.

  well i finally through in the towel and filed for a divorce.

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  Bumble Bee

  Sounds like you are not a JW?

  It's none of their business what you do now that you are divorced. You do not have to play by their "rules".